I once had a colleague who was incredibly positive all the time.
I loved it! He gave off great energy and was nice to be around,
but I totally didn't trust him.
Ultimately, I noticed that he tended to dismiss any conflict
or comment that could be construed as negative.
He'd try to spin people in a different direction
to take focus of off whatever issue was unpleasant to him.
That's particularly unsettling to a person who may be going through,
well, life.
His behavior sends a message that only positive thoughts or actions are appropriate.
It's great to find the positive in a bad situation,
but you can't dismiss those who see the situation differently.
Dismissing others' emotions, thoughts, or perspectives that don't suit you
also dismisses their connection to you.
It makes you seem untrustworthy and inauthentic.
Empathy keeps your positivity from becoming toxic
and builds connection.
This doesn't mean you have to play the role of therapist.
Simply try to put yourself in their place.
Acknowledge their feelings, thoughts, and perspective
instead of dismissing them.
Dr. Nancy Williams is a Musician, Educator, and Culture Coach & Consultant who helps leaders create cultures of joy and empowerment. Sign up for her email list here to get leadership tips and personal inspiration sent directly to your inbox.